A Whole Can Of Worms

by Lori Dwyer on October 10, 2012 · 9 comments

Thanks to people who know people (cheers to the coolest dinosaur on the block), I was an audience speaker on this week’s episode of the Aussie TV show Can Of Worms.

I put in my shiny two cents on a topic in which I may someday be considered an expert– over sharing online and within the social medias.

As I said on the show, I’m a chronic and compulsive over sharer. And I love my blog. Not to mention Twitter. People are so busy these days, communities are hard to come by– online, you can find unbridled but somehow unburnable support.

http-static.movideo.com-flash-movideo_player.swf-<-div> If you missed it, you can check it out in the clip above- I start speaking right on the 4:58 mark.
And, yes, Chrissie Swan is just as awesome and completely genuine In Real Life as she seems.

It always takes me slightly by surprise if people tell me what I’ve written or said or done was ’brave’. I think maybe I’ve just belted myself– and a lot of you– around the head with the stuff I never thought I’d be able to say so many times that I’m numb to it.

And I think that’s a good thing.

I’d really, really like to think that sometime in the not too far off future, everyone will be as unsurprised and nonplussed should the topics of suicide and mental illness happened to come up in conversation.

And hopefully that will mean that they won’t even come up that often at all- simply because suicide will no longer be something that seems to have left icy fingerprints on the life of every second person you pass on the street, and mental illness discussed with as little shame as any other medical condition.

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Anonymous October 18, 2012 at 1:16 pm

I can not find your blog but would love to read it from the begin as my husband took his life recently.
Thanku for your words on "can of worms"
I don't feel so alone now.


Anonymous October 11, 2012 at 12:51 pm

Well articulated and correct. (And you "scrubbed up" beautifully) As you said oversharing" can be a useful tool to help cope with a situation.


Spagsy October 11, 2012 at 7:41 am

try this link http://ten.com.au/watch-tv-episodes-online.htm?movideo_p=45071&movideo;_m=233213

I must say i have not caught an episode of the show before and it was funny and interesting to see the panels opinion shift – based on what? peer group pressure?!?


Trisha October 10, 2012 at 4:36 pm

Hi Lori,

The thing is human beings are herd creatures, and by being one of the first to speak, you have shown the rest of us that it's okay to do so.

Thank you for speaking, because you have helped others find their voices.


The link also doesn't work for me (nor did the one on the channel ten site, do you know if they are enabled for international viewers)


Miss Pink October 10, 2012 at 2:07 pm

Keep on pushing Lori. I believe so much in what you're doing. Not talking about suicide makes it seem all the more fairytale-ish. To all of those contemplating, feeling like it's the only solution, that things will be better off without their presense….they need to hear this. They need to see that it's far too common and it is such a heavy burden on those left behind. That their people want them to fight the fight even if they don't know what they're feeling.
I felt the moment coming where you chocked up a little and my heart swelled for you. Yes it's been ugly here at times, but there is so much beauty in your ugliness and we need to start talking about this and it's aftermath.


Jen October 10, 2012 at 11:13 am

I missed you on the night, and link to the show isn't working above.


Catherine October 10, 2012 at 11:11 am

Hi Lori – I think I've posted everywhere about your appearance, so why not your blog too!

I'm proud to be a follower of your blog. It is sometimes hard, funny, sad, quirky. But, it has taught me two things…

That there is amazing support and friendship to be found on this inter-web thingy.

And the most important one… that there is no shame in suicide, only love. Only love.


Kimmie October 10, 2012 at 10:45 am

Link not working?


woahmolly.com October 10, 2012 at 9:25 am

I'm a chronic oversharer in life – if you know me well, then you will know pretty much everything about me (I revel in telling people all the worst bits too – it makes me know they really love me if they can know it all and still stick around.)

But I am a little wary about posting everything on the net. I've got a bit of a controversial (to some, anyway) past and while I'm not ashamed of it AT ALL I don't talk about it much online (I hint at aspects of it) because I don't want to have it used against me. People can be so cruel (as I'm sure you know.)

I feel like a bit of a hypocrite sometimes – I LOVE people who tell the truth and tell it like it is and who are brave and I have always been that type – but only IRL. Online, I feel more guarded, because I don't get to choose who knows what about me.


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