The Simple Life

by Lori Dwyer on April 19, 2011 · 40 comments

Someone asked me on Twitter the other day, is this simple life I’m living more conducive to healing, easier on the soul, than suburban living…?

And the answer is yes. Oh my, yes.

It takes some getting used… I’ve been here almost a month and somethings still take me surprise. No Macca’s, no 24 hour anything, and all the shops closed Sunday and Monday… I can get used to that. I am getting used to that. My kids, of course, don’t know the difference.

It’s a fair trade, I think, for this. It’s so quiet here, and people are so friendly. I’m still paranoid, and I still worry about people talking about me… they probably are talking about me. But here, I think, the prominent emotion would be sympathy, not hatred. Empathy, perhaps, rather than blame.

That makes it easier.

Apart from the convenience, and having the people I love dearly close by… there’s not a lot I can miss. My large, two storey house was beautiful, but this little cottage with it’s huge fenced yard is so perfect for us and easy to keep clean and organised and goodness knows we had too much stuff anyway…

I miss my children’s playgroup, and I think, so do they, but we will find another one of those, and soon. One just out of the area, a half hour or so away, that sounds like a perfect medium between my insecurities and my children’s needs.

And my little neighborhood… I loved it so much… but how can I miss it when it turned so sour? How can I miss the short walk to the duck pond, to the playground, when here it’s just a short drive to the beach?

The air here is clean and perfect and the sky, on days like today, is so perfectly blue and huge. There are trees everywhere- that must be why the air here is so gorgeous.

And it’s just the lifestyle. No one here is in a rush, there always seems to be time to go to the beach, to fish, to walk to the river. I remember how much of a rush I was always in,how exhausted I was at the end of every day, having spent the whole day getting not much done… and I wonder what it was I was doing, how it was that i was so busy. I seem to get the same basics done here… and I still find time to sit, to relax.

It’s so good for my soul. It takes so long to ease into it. I remind myself, a hundred times a day, that this knot of anxiety in my chest is unfounded, that right at this second, there is nothing to stress out about.

It’s beautiful here. It’s good for me. It’s good for my soul.


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Kymmie April 29, 2011 at 11:53 am

What a perfect place. I'm so glad you chose to move there. Be still. And just be. xx


Trik82 April 26, 2011 at 3:04 pm

Sounds beautiful xox


MaidInAustralia April 21, 2011 at 7:09 pm

I'm glad you found somewhere beautiful to heal. I am sure it will make a world of difference. xo


Suzi April 20, 2011 at 6:46 pm

Pardon my lack of previous commenting i have only been stalking for a little while, I am so happy that you are back in paradise, you certainly deserve some peace and tranquility about now! Your strength is inspiring.
Take care


robyn April 20, 2011 at 4:20 pm

So glad to hear this– hope you have a time of rest and rejuvenation…. if anyone needs it you guys do!


Donna April 20, 2011 at 12:36 pm

I am so happy to have read this and hear you are literally finding breathing space again in your world. Hope it continues to help you blossom and heal xx


Cate April 20, 2011 at 10:49 am

This is so good to read.
Sounds like you have found your soft place to fall.



Penny April 20, 2011 at 8:40 am

Oh, that was me that asked you, that's cool! :) I love this post, I think it's my favourite I've read by you. It makes me feel relaxed by association, and it makes me dream of a time when I can do the same, but hopefully in happier circumstances. When you mentioned you get the same stuff done and you dont know why you used to rush or what you did differently, that struck a chord. I am in a constant state of rushing, but what for? You have me thinking.


Megs April 20, 2011 at 8:32 am

I don't know you at all, having simply found your blog through The Bloggess, but despite that…I feel like I can breathe more easily knowing that you have found something that is doing you good right now. Maybe it's weird to know that a stranger is thinking about you and wishing she could somehow make it all better…but I am.


Belinda April 20, 2011 at 7:48 am

Find solice anyway you can.Be kind to your heart.Your new little peice of solitude sounds perfect.I hope you and your little ones find happiness there.


Cassondra April 20, 2011 at 3:24 am

Good, I'm glad you're healing. You sound better.


Jen D April 20, 2011 at 2:14 am

That sounds so, so nice. Blessings to you and the little ones.


Jess April 19, 2011 at 8:42 pm

So wonderful to hear that you are living somewhere that feels like home….a place where your hearts can begin to heal xx


Fi April 19, 2011 at 8:19 pm

Sounds simply divine Lori. And it makes me smile to hear that you're soaking it all up xxx


Tai Tai April 19, 2011 at 8:13 pm

Sounds like bliss. And you deserve it xx


Amy xxoo April 19, 2011 at 7:58 pm

I love that your finding some kind of peace these days. But – the shops arent even open on Monday? And i thought Dubbo had some strange habits… :)


Parental Parody April 19, 2011 at 7:23 pm

So I'm moving in. Best send directions. It sounds heavenly calm, peaceful and quiet. I wonder if I could just send my kids, actually? You know, if you don't have room for all of us! So glad you've found a comfy place


Kellie April 19, 2011 at 7:19 pm

This place seems like it was made for you and the kids. Happy healing!


Andrea April 19, 2011 at 7:07 pm

About bloody time…you deserve it.


A Daft Scots Lass April 19, 2011 at 6:54 pm

I'm so very glad that the simple life is healing your soul.


Kelloggsville April 19, 2011 at 5:44 pm

Nice. And I relate. X


River April 19, 2011 at 5:15 pm

It sounds like a lovely peaceful haven. Just what you need. Are there good schools for the kids? Because you could stay there forever….


Jacki April 19, 2011 at 2:24 pm

Sounds wonderful indeed. The perfect place to take some time.


Maxabella April 19, 2011 at 2:13 pm

Your soul is sighing, I'll bet. Be at peace, Lori. x


Veronica April 19, 2011 at 1:48 pm

It sounds healing. I am glad you are where you are now. xx


Miss Pink April 19, 2011 at 1:30 pm

I find often in times of high stress that all life really needs is to be simplified. Why do we have to be such complex creatures these days? Why compete and make things harder on ourselves.
Where you are sounds BEAUTIFUL. A place i need to be, away from everything.


Sarah April 19, 2011 at 1:19 pm

Sounds like an awesome place to be xx


Watercolor April 19, 2011 at 1:11 pm

Awesome. Sounds lovely. Such a shame the other place turned so poisonous. But so great a new place was found to nurture you and your sweet family. hugs!


Queensland Girl April 19, 2011 at 12:55 pm

So good to hear.


Lucy April 19, 2011 at 12:47 pm

To find a place that cushions you, where you feel you can heal, is rare and wonderful.


Photographer Mum April 19, 2011 at 12:45 pm

Sounds like a lovely little spot. I am so glad you are healing and finding the time to relax.


Hear Mum Roar April 19, 2011 at 12:16 pm

I am so happy to hear this:)


bigwords is… April 19, 2011 at 12:09 pm

Wonderful. Having the time to just be x


Crystal Cheverie April 19, 2011 at 10:06 pm

I'm so glad you got yourself out of that toxic environment. I, too, have been seriously considering the possibility of creating a simpler life for myself in the form of a move to PEI (that's a little island on the east coast of Canada). It's nice to just go somewhere where you can just be, where people are kind and friendly, where they understand the importance of just stopping to smell the flowers. Enjoy, Lori, enjoy.


thatblogyoudo April 19, 2011 at 8:49 pm

If being there helps you along the road Lori, then its all i want for you, peace… x o x


Mrs Woog April 19, 2011 at 8:10 pm

Hate to say I told you so…. Now I will go slap myself for you xxxxxxx


Good Golly Miss Holly! April 19, 2011 at 8:03 pm


Tracy April 19, 2011 at 7:49 pm

That sounds like a life anyone could crave…I crave. Happy to hear light and sunshine in your words.


freefalling April 19, 2011 at 7:04 pm

I'm hearin' ya.


Kim Houssenloge April 19, 2011 at 1:27 pm

That's so wonderful, Lori. I'm so happy for you and your kids that you are able to find some rest and recoup time in the country. It is so soothing and once you get used to it you'll probably never want to leave. At least, that's what's happened to me.


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