I can’t even write too much about this. It makes my teeth grit in anger and brings up all kinds of justifiably furious states.
But I’ll say this… One day, I will tell both my daughter, and my son, not to drink to excess. Because it makes you look like a tool.
I’ll tell them both to be careful with what they do, how they behave. I’ll teach them the best ways to minimise the risk to them, whatever situation they may be in.
And I’ll tell them the truth– that sometimes, awful people do horrible things. And that’s never okay.
But I’ll be damned if I tell my daughter that something she does effectively makes her prey to those people. As Kerri said on Twitter, there’s a very fine line between ‘Binge drinking makes you too vulnerable’ and ‘That short skirt makes you a target’.
Because if we keep telling our daughters these things, if we keep perpetuating the myth that it was something they did that caused a sexual assault…
If we tell them to be ‘good girls’, and they are, and the worst still happens…
What the f*ck do we tell them, then?