26 Years Without ‘My Norm’

by Lori Dwyer on March 1, 2010 · 6 comments


I entered this photo in the BellyBelly photography competition this month. the theme this month was ‘Love’, and I wanted to do something a bit different. (and I won! I won! I won, I won, I won!!).
The sweetest love story I’ve ever heard is really a very simple one. Boy- that’s Norm, my grandfather, meets girl- that’s Shirl, my gran; way back in the late 1940′s. Boy courts girl in a horse and sulky when cars were well and truly the fashion; because he owns a horse, but not a car, and he’s a practical sorta fella that way. Boy and girl get married at the respective ages of 20 and 19.

They have their ups and their downs. Build a house, buy a car, have two kids and an angel baby in between. At the age of 50, my grandfather, who had never smoked and rarely drank, was fit and active, was diagnosed with cancer. He passed away when I was tw
o years old.
My gran had never had anyone else before him, and has never had one after. She never will. Norm was her man, her one and only. She wears a photos of Norm and herself in a locket around her neck, every day, everywhere she goes.

A year or so ago, I was a guest speaker at a women’s social group my gran attends, and I stayed for the discussion afterward. The topic was married couples sleeping in separate beds. Most of the women were happy to confess that they regularly or occasionally slept in separate beds, or rooms, from their husbands. My lovely gran spoke up to say, “It’s been 26 years without my Norm (she always calls him that- “my Norm”, no one else’s)… I’d give anything to spend just one more night sleeping next to him”.

Quite simply… that’s love.

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Neenish Arts April 13, 2012 at 11:27 pm

how absolutely touching and a magnificent photo!


Katt March 2, 2010 at 1:01 pm

I love this!


Lucy@DiminishingLucy March 1, 2010 at 9:49 pm

Lori, well done on the BellyBelly win. What a lovely relationship they had. What a lovely photo and what a lovely post. xx


DaughteroftheStars March 1, 2010 at 3:41 pm

Sweet story :) and congratulations on the well deserved win!

I never get why older couples find sleeping in separate beds preferable. Even if the s*x aint happening anymore it's still nice to be near the person you love.

I hope I'm still spooning when I'm 80 lol!


Heather March 1, 2010 at 2:55 pm

Great photo!! My great grandma never remarried either, but she didn't talk much about my great grandpa. I love the "my Norm". I wonder if any of us will ever refer to our spouses as "my". Congrats on the win!


alliecat March 1, 2010 at 2:04 pm

Lovely story. I love how she still calls him "my Norm". Congratulations on the comp win, you deserve it, it's a beautiful photo.

And yes, I did wonder why all that was written like a little subtext, like an afterthought or an irrelevant tidbit! Blogger irritates me too with the way it won't let me space things and I have to edit a million times to get paragraph spacing so my whole post doesn't look like one enormous paragraph… Drives me batty too so i feel your pain!


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