We seem to have so much… stuff.
It’s been almost two years since we first moved into the TinyTrainHouse. Which means, really, it’s been two years since we had a big clean-stuff-out session. And in that time, our material possessions have multiplied; as though someone added water or fed them after midnight or did something equally irresponsible.
The main problem is that it’s no longer just my stuff. My children are now old enough that their possessions seem to truly belong to them now. The grown far more attached to material things than they were two years ago- I think that’s just a sad consequence of growing up.
Making the decision of what comes with us and what gets left behind- recycled, re-use, redistributed, or just plain thrown out- no longer feels as though it’s entirely up to me.
It would be good, indeed, to break my children’s (hearts) belligerent hold on possessions, on owning things. To teach them that all this stuff is just that… stuff. That it’s not worth being so attached to.
At the same time, I don’t want to force them to give up anything. I know my weakness- I think it’s every mother’s weakness, really, and compounded when you’ve watched your kids lose more than what any child should have to.
I don’t like to see pain in my children’s eyes. Even if that pain is connected to something that’s not worth anything much.
I’d never make them give up any possessions they truly adore. It’s just junk, really, that we’re cleaning out. But you have so little that you’re in control of, as a kid. Wanting to control what you do have is probably quite normal. And they’re about to be picked up and unceremoniously dumped out of their comfort zone anyway…
I don’t know. If anyone has any advice for getting little kids to part with ‘stuff’ that’s just stuff… please feel free to share.