The Big Dream Bucket List

by Lori Dwyer on June 17, 2010 · 15 comments

Mushi mushi,

When I was twenty years old, I had a low grade epiphany. I was working part time, going to university… and that was about it. I kept having terrible flashbacks of the mother of a guy I dated when I was seventeen. She was so…. boring. Her life- her hair, her clothes, her house, the food she cooked- it was all grey, and always the same, day in and day out.

It terrified me. She was just so…. sad.

It scared me enough that I broke up with her son.

He was a bit of a dickwad, anyway.

It actually seems terribly conceited and judgmental now, as things often do with the clarity of perfect hindsight. Dickwad’s mum may not have been unhappy at all- she had her kids, her family, her husband, and was probably pretty content with her lot in life.

But that is entirely beside the point.

The nagging memory of the grey women acted as the perfect catalyst for me to make the decision to put some sparkle back into my life. Since leaving high school at eighteen, I had gotten real old, real quick. I no longer did spontaneous things. It felt like I no longer laughed at anything really funny, I just tittered along with the crowd. I was existing, untouched and uninspired.

I could not, and still cannot, think of a fate worse than a boring, wishy washy life.

I was scared right into making a list. A list of things I wanted to do with my life, while I still had a life to do things with. Because you just never know when you are going to be hit by a bus or a cement truck or a fallling refrigerator something.

A Bucket list. Not that I called it that at the time, this was long before the movie came out.

Before I share my list with you, reader-ers, I would like to point out that one of my motto’s in life is- Expect nothing and you will not be disappointed. I aim low. And I’m quite OK with that.

Lori’s Big Dream Bucket List
* Learn sign language.
* Sing on stage
* Paint toenails a different color every week for a year (umm… yeah, I’m not quite sure what I was thinking here, either).
*Learn to play an instrument.
*Get married.
*Have kidlets.
*Buy a house
*Get motorbike license.

Like I said, I aim low. 

Whatever. Limited aspirations or not, I am more than a little bit smug when I say that, in eight years, I have crossed everything off that list.

But one.

If I’m honest, which I am, most of the time; there was a sense of trepidation last year when the Bump was born. Because that was it (almost). The Bump’s birth put the ‘s’ in “Have kidlets”. And, just like that, I had completed (almost) everything on my Big Dreams list.

Including, I might add, “learn to play a musical instrument.” Because the ukulele totally counts.

That, my friends, should be an entirely satisfying feeling. It’s not. It’s quite scary. It’s almost like your number is up, your days are done, and a big tall man dressed in black with extremely skinny fingers and a big ass knife now has you programmed into his After-Life GPS.

Yuh uh. Like I said, scary.

So, what do you do when you have (almost) crossed everything off your Big Dream Bucket List?
Way groovy pink bike piccie stolen from here
That, my friends, is simple. You finally learn to ride that motorbike.
And you write yourself a whole new list.
(Keep it tuned to RRSAHM to hear the finer details of the New Big Dream Bucket List, sometime in the very near future).

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Kham June 22, 2010 at 2:41 pm

Here is a great place to create, manage and share your bucket list. You can also get some interesting ideas to put on your bucket list from others.

Check it out.


hpretty June 20, 2010 at 5:26 am

Great post, lori. The use of the word "dickwad" made me laugh out loud. you write really well.


In Real Life June 18, 2010 at 1:47 pm



lori June 18, 2010 at 1:00 am

Love the pink motorcycle! I don't think you're aiming low at all. You know what that means? It means you're easily contented. The fact that you set goals and did them means you can do whatever you set your mind to do and if you ever did decide to do bigger things, like travel around the world, or start a charity, or whatever, you'd probably do it. Right now you're content with a pink motorbike and raising your kidlets and there ain't nothin wrong with that, sister.
But definitely start another list to ward off the guy in black!


Kimberly June 17, 2010 at 11:11 pm

Lori, you are awesome.
That is all.



Estelle@nest June 17, 2010 at 10:12 pm

Wow, thats pretty great. Well done- looking forward to seeing what the next list entails. And I'd better write one too…
Really pleased I've found your blog!


Tina June 17, 2010 at 9:33 pm

I don't have a bucket list but I have been doing the 101 things in 1001 days. That keeps me busy enough :) Loving the furry bike!


Thea June 17, 2010 at 9:17 pm

Looking forward to the new list!
BTW, I think you should do the painted toe nail thing, before you're too old to reach your toes! Hehe


Brenda June 17, 2010 at 8:06 pm

When you do get your pink motorbike. Will you promise to give me a ride?


Sarah June 17, 2010 at 7:40 pm

That's when you do a 101 in 1001 list, and when that's done you do another one….

Speaking of I need to sort mine out again.


Taryn Rucci June 17, 2010 at 2:47 pm

My bucket list item number 323 to have 3 babies in quick succession is nearly complete, so I look forward to moving onto 324 – raising them and keeping them out of jail! lol x


Wanderlust June 17, 2010 at 12:55 pm

Never stop making bucket lists.


Mich June 17, 2010 at 11:32 am

you have once again inspired me Lori! I'm off to start my list this afternoon! xx


HappyJacki June 17, 2010 at 10:42 am

My bucket list is ridiculously long, just keep adding to it. They don't have to be BIG things (like riding a motorbike) it can be going to a restaurant you've always wanted to try, learning a new skill (props to you for the sign language BTW!) or making a new friend. Good on you!


Jodie at Mummy Mayhem June 17, 2010 at 10:09 am

Have just been catching up with all your posts, Lori! (Loved the Post-Its BTW!)

I think lists like this are great. I once saw a woman's list on the Ellen Show. Ellen was helping her cross out some of them (eg, Meet Ellen – surprisingly). Anyway, it's good to have some goals, hon!

And well done you! But don't worry about "not aiming high" because, who is to say you haven't? We shouldn't base our benchmark on life on everyone elses.

As for me? hmmm. I'd have to think about my list some more. I'm pretty happy with what I've done so far, but I think some more travelling would be involved. There's so much to see out there.

Oh, and I'd love to meet Henry Cavill, and have him fall in love with me. Even if I can't reciprocate those feelings, being a happily married woman and all.

Yeah. That's gonna happen.


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