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It is said that women in some Native American tribes grow their hair long all their life, only to cut it if they become a widow.
The dictated mourning period is one year. But the widow cannot remarry until her hair has regrown.
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“You can’t cut it that short“, says Bunny. “You’ll look stupid.”
“Stupid to who?”
He can’t form an honest answer around the art of trying not to hurt my feelings. God knows he is sick of seeing me cry.
“Blokes, you mean? As in, no guy will want to date me with really short hair?”
“Well… yeah.”
I’m guessing Bunny is going to be right. And that’s awesome- half the point of this experiment.
If no one wants me, there is no temptation… and no chance of being hurt.
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Hi Lori.
I love love your haircut. I had long hair to past mid back and when I was living in London over 10 years ago I went for my routine cut and my gorgeous gay hairdresser served me two glasses of wine and I left with a pixie cut. OMG! I loved it. It was a shock. It was a new me. I felt so free. So ‘not pretty’, instead stunningly strong within myself. What an inspiration you are. I thank you. x
Hey Isabella, thanks so much
It’s currently growing out, but I think I’ll need to do *something* with it soon.. it’s kind of boring 
xx
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Short hair rocks!
Totally awesome hair Lori, it looks fabulous on you and I think you look very feminine. xxx
Well done Lori, is great to see a really Happy Bouncy Laughing Lori. Hair looks fantastic, frames your face and makes your eyes sparkle.
I just saw this today (started a new job, not as much time to read my fav blog) and I LOVE YOUR HAIR!!! YOU LOOK SOOOO CUTE! Like a PIXIE or a Fairy! Good for you!!!!
Lori you look A – MAZE – ING !! Yes, sparkle, yes feminine. This really does suit you, everyone else has said it, but this whole look really goes with the Lori I know from being a reader "inner Lori". That first shot in the vlog from your hair ad, who is that girl? I'm so happy for you. I'm curious….what did the kids say? Angela
That haircut totally suits! But you have probably gathered that from the huge amount of comments. You look sparkly!
I LOVE IT! You're right, it is a bit of emancipated. Short hair requires little styling. I love how it compliments your gorgeous eye brows. You have a nice natural brow arch. Personally, I think it's very feminine. That hair dresser had no right to express her opinion. When you go to the hair dresser, they do what they want. Glad you stuck by your convictions and told her what you wanted.
Have you ever seen Rosemary's Baby? I'm not suggesting you see it, but the actress that plays Rosemary is a gorgeous blond, and halfway through the movie, she gets a pixie cut that is absolutely divine! I can't think of her name, but look up the cast members and pics from the film. She's drop dead gorgeous!
BTW, You're MUCH prettier than Emma Watson.
Holy Shit! I freaking LOVE your hair. It's totally awesome! You wear it amazingly well — better than Emma Watson. Seriously. Smokin' hot!
That is a completely fabulous haircut on you and how UBER CUTE!! I want to go cut off all my hair now. I cannot believe such a complete doofus of a hairdresser could manage to do such a foxy cut. It doesn't look blokey one bit, it looks fabulous.
I love it Lori. Hello cheekbones! If I had bone structure like that I would show it off too! x
Wow, you look beautiful – love it.
your haircut looks fantastic. It suits your face so well! rock it girl!
Totally agree with all the previous, Ms. Lori. It looks really good. I tried the pixie look when I was a teen and quickly realized that my ears are gigantic. No mas pixie cut for me. On the plus side, my hubby also has unusually "sticky out" (technical term) ears. Should we ever decide to have children, they may actually be able to fly.
You look fantastic! I sooooo can't do short hair. I blame it on the fact that I look a lot like my male cousin so when I cut my hair short I see him in the mirror lol. You look great though. And you look so happy and….free. Screw what other people think about it being so short. It looks great and you obviously love it.
You are *totally* rocking the short hair.
I understand the whole "Gotta wear more makeup now" feeling. My hair is very short too, and I notice I feel a little more clunky/manly if I don't at LEAST have my eyes done. But when I feel good, DAMN do I feel good. Short hair is definitely freeing and (this is a totally general, somewhat snarky, not-scientifically based observation) you know the man who loves you with short hair will also love you with medium hair or long hair, whereas men who only like longer hair tend to be major ass-hats if you want to shorten it up. At least that has been my personal experience.
Either way, you are beautiful! Enjoy the ease and fun of your new 'do. Wear dangly earrings if you like/have them. Bust out the chunky necklaces. Celebrate your lovely neck and shoulders! I haven't been able to bring myself to grow my hair out for the past 3 years, I like it short so much.
ALSO! If you decide to keep it short for a bit, before seeing a new hairdresser/salon call them up. Tell them you have short hair and ask if they have a stylist who LIKES/has experience doing feminine short cuts. You can usually get a sense of what you will be walking into by the receptionist's reaction. If you don't like what you hear, call another place. That is how I found my favorite short-hair stylist ever.
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Love the short hair
I love it, it looks great on you…….. I wish i could wear it….. Sherry
LOVE IT!! You look AWESOME.. It really, really suits you.
I love short hair & would love to work up the courage to cut it off again.
Actually, I told hubby I am getting Ellen DeGeneres style & colour for my 40th. I've got 6 years to psych myself up…. LOL
I hope this brings you change & some enjoyment. x
Cheers, Nat
I love your hair. You go, girl! I cut my hair short after graduating high school as a means of shedding that time and looking forward to starting a new chapter.
STunning. you go girl!
M2Mx
Beautiful! Beautiful! Beautiful – that's what you are. Well done. Brave, bold and fabulous.
A bit of lip gloss and well-presented boobies and no one will EVER accuse you of being less-than-feminine.
Enjoy
Love it Lori it really suits you and good to see you happy with it too, keep smiling Chels x
Lori, from one who has had that same hair cut (and same feedback re not being feminine) I say you TOTALLY ROCK the pixie look.
Love how you are shedding the old for the new x
Totally love it….you are rockin that look- try some big, dangly earrings- look great with short do's. More power to ya Lori! XX
love th4e hair. suits you. when the haidresser asked you hy you wnted 'dyke' hair you should have said "my girlfriend likes it like that"
Just love it!
I actually think it makes your facial features look quite feminine.
Looks good! I think you will still have guys hit on you.
Lori –
This haircut is AMAZING! Honestly, I think it suits you 100%. Not that your old hair DIDN'T suit you – it just suited a different you.
And I think the photo of you at the bottom of the post is quite possibly one of the most beautiful photos I've seen in a very long while.
Lots of love dearie.
I fricken love it.
i love it.
It looks fricking awesome Lori. I think the makeup definitely keeps the look feminine, plus you have earrings too. It's really lovely – I REALLY like it.
And *spits virtual drink* at that second hairdresser! No words. No. Words.
i think it looks pretty.
There's nothing remotely blokish or 'dyke-ish) about it, by the way. It's honestly gorgeous. I prefer long hair to short, usually. But I liked it immediately, before I'd even started the Vlog.
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I love it, actually. It suits you. I was going to say, it was a little Emma Watson (that girl pulls off the pixie look better than anyone in a loooooong time).
You look great. It's actually fresh.
OH how adorable do you look. So pretty! I looove it!
All that air on your neck gets really addicting
You look amazing Lori!!
http://theorganicsister.com/cutting-my-dreadlocks/
This had some interesting discussions about having your hair cut short . . . . . . .
I think it really suits you, you easily pull it off, in a cute but strong way and I think it suits you even more when you smile . . .I think it's more feminine if women can do this and not worry about being a stereotyical girl with long hair etc . . .The short neck is ace!! Go for it, and YES change that horrible hairdresser . . .Glad she didn't spoil your experience x x x You look lovely, be happy!! x x x
Your hair is cool. I'm glad Bunny is back.
Lori, you are beautiful. For the right one it won't be about hair length or history. We are all more than the sum of our parts.
You're ROCKING that look. You look amazing. It really suits you well.
The haircut is lovely, Lori. A pixie cut (I think that's what they call it) is feminine, and it's one of the 'in' cuts of the season. Zoe over at Mamamia said so!
You're lucky to have petite features to pull it off well. Be confident, it looks great!
I absolutely adore it! I wish I was brave enough to do that to my hair! And I think you can look very feminine with short hair
I'm sure there's plenty of men who'd tap that:P
But I can understand the reasoning behind it. You look great
Dude you look freakin awesome. Like I said on Twitter yesterday – so suits you.
and why are short haircuts like yours labeled dyke cuts? seriously? ok not gonna get into it hey lol
Love how u seem so sparky now too.
You are an amazing awesome woman & your inner strength shines thru *hugs*
I think you look spunky lady!! My hubby prefers women with short hair, he says there is nothing unfeminine about it and spunky women look like fighters (in life).
I think this style shows your strength. Good on you for taking a chance and claiming you!
You look beautiful. And your hairdresser is a numpty!
Not unfeminine at all, check out these gorgeous women! http://honey.hubpages.com/hub/Pixie-Cut-Hairstyles-for-Women-Short-Pixie-Haircuts-Pictures
It looks lovely, enjoy the shineyness.
Looks great!!
Your rockin that hair do Lori! It really suits you. I love it!
I'm actually a little jealous. Firstly of you having the guts to do something like that ( I wish I did but don't) and secondly because I wish I could get away with a hair cut like that but don't have face shape for it.
Hair cut looks amazing!! I too cut my shoulder length hair super short with parts undercut a few weeks ago!!! As a hairdresser and salon owner, I am mortified by hairdresser number 2. Totally unprofessional!!!! But don't be offended by brin charged a men's cut
As a pixie-wearer myself-you rock this 'do, girlfriend. I love it and am jealous – i need a haircut and don't have the necessary small loan to pay the woman who cuts my hair better than it's been cut in a long time.
I LOVE IT!!!
Love It!!!!! Being a hairdresser myself, I am horrified that the hairdresser was so rude and out of line. Charging you a mens haircut OMG so bad…..If she was my employee she wouldn't have a job anymore!!!
DUUUUUUUUUUUDE! SO GOOD! SO GOOD! I LOVE LOVE LOVE you with short hair! LOVE IT! SO MUCH! you look super hot. screw Bunny. yea, WOW. amazing (I am *seriously* not just saying that. I think you look FAB.)
well, I hate to break it to you, but I actually think this haircut makes you look sizzling hot! not everyone could pull it off, but it really brings out your eyes. woo hoo!
You look awesome! I used to have hair that short and you totally pull it off more than i did.
And also, dont worry about the guys not going for short hair – if my dad werent already married he'd be interested ( he's forever telling me to cut mine short again, it looked better that way ) and even my husband said he's curious to see me with short hair again. So there are some blokes out there who like it!
Love it! Really want the hairstyle too, but am just too scared..
And Empire Records is my golden movie, I watch it about once a month!
PinkChrissy Xx
After yesterdays post I am so glad to see this one! You look AMAZING! And if you've worried about feeling feminine, get some seriously chunky necklaces. LOVE IT!
That haircut really really suits you
Fucking AMAZING! You totally rock the pixie x