Everybody’s Body Is Beautiful.

by Lori Dwyer on October 28, 2011 · 39 comments

Hey jellybeans,

A year ago now, back in the Before, I blogged into We Heart Life‘s I Heart My Body campaign, which officially goes live tomorrow. I thought I’d give you a heads up so you can join in if you’re brave.

It’s a simple, awesome concept. A celebration of all the bodies in the blogosphere- male and female; big and small; pink, tan, dark and pale; with all their beautiful marks, scars, lumps and bumps.

You can show as much or as little as you like. I’m OK with undies. Hell, at least this year they’re pretty matching ones, which is more than I can say for last time round. But it was that usual restless sadness as I took my own photos in the mirror, rather than having my husband to do it for me.

I’m not particularly body concious… even less so now than a year ago. I have more all round confidence, I think, more of a bite-me-I-don’t-care vibe happening, which extends to bikinis and short shorts. Because I’m proud of my body, and I no longer give a damn what anyone thinks. I’m pretty good nick for someone with two little kids, who does minimal exercise and eats crap. My body serves me well.

It’s nourished two children from conception to fourteen months old, giving and giving and still managing not to deplete itself too far. It’s given birth twice, once all by itself, pumping out oxytocin in a manner that still amazes me, forcing a high that I doubt any substance will ever match.

My body has takes piercings and tattoos without complaint. It rarely falls ill, and recovers quickly. My own stamina amazes me sometimes.

I know my own self, body included, at a much deeper level than I did a year ago. I pay more attention to what my body needs… water, sleep, nourishment, pleasure.

It’s a constant evolution I think, for women, the way we feel about our bodies. My body and I are reaching some kind of peaceful halfway point… It treats me well. I respect it, much as I can. And when I need to, it indulges me; allowing me to go without sleep, allowing me to drink too much or stuff myself with sugar, and it recovers with minimal complaint.

Having children, getting older, having to rely more on my own physical strength… all these things are adding up. According to Million Dollar Woman, if you’re a stay at home mum with small children, you lift a tonne a day. A tonne. No wonder we’re all so bloody exhausted all the time. Women’s bodies, they are amazing things, in so many different ways.

So… this is me. Lumpy bits, bumpy bits, pretty bits and all. My body’s not perfect, but I love it just the same… it treats me extraordinarily well.

“So we don’t have flat bellies anymore, but our strong arms can do the seamless transfer- from car seat to cot- without waking the baby. The breasts we once once covered in itsy bitsy teeny weeny bikini tops are no longer male eye-magnets, but they’ve stopped a babies crying. Handsome men don’t scare us anymore. We are mothers, for God’s sake. We can wipe a bottom squeaky clean with the very last wipe, remove all traces of vomit from cashmere, and tell whether a child has a temperature just by feeling it’s forehead with the back of our hands. Don’t f*ck with us.”

Secret Mother’s Business’ by Joanne Fedler.

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Shellye November 2, 2011 at 2:19 pm

Oh Lori, I wish I had your confidence. (If I did, I wouldn't have a bloody eating disorder.)

I know it sounds crazy, but I don't care what other people think about my body, but I think of myself as hideous.

Thank you for having the courage to post pics of yourself and the confidence to share them with us. You truly are beautiful inside and out!


Livi November 2, 2011 at 6:03 am

Fantastic post! You're right, women's bodies, bodies in general, are amazing and we should celebrate them! All shapes and sizes!


Sarah October 31, 2011 at 2:20 pm

You rock babe :) And I love the matching undies :)


Easy Peasy Kids October 31, 2011 at 7:39 am

Didn't think you could get more gorgeous, yet here you are more gorgeous than ever x


Sally Wright October 31, 2011 at 5:32 am

I have followed your blog for over a year now. And 11 months ago I lost my husband to cancer and like you have struggled to make sense of things but am a strong woman and I too find myself longing and wanting to move through this pain and onto something which doesn't see me stuck dealing with the awfulness that is being a widow.
It scares me how we live thousands of miles apart. Me in the UK and you in Australia but I find myself asking myself the same question re dating again. I am so worried about it all more about what others think rather than actually doing it. I've asked why is it society encourages people who are separated or divorced to get back on with dating but when you are widow people have different thoughts. If I was divorced I could do something about that, try at the relationship etc but with being a widow you cant change that. No matter what you do or don't do Tony wont come back and it is the same for me. I know if I could sit in a dark room for years and at the end of that Steve would come back then I would but he wont will he. And so I have a choice as you do. Move forward or stay in a painful fog.
Good luck x x


shae October 30, 2011 at 10:45 am

Great post, gorgeous pics :)


Karen October 30, 2011 at 5:07 am

[Lemme try this again]
WOW! Good for you! The closest I got to a pic of my body / figure was my current facebook profile pic! I'm 45, had 5 huge babies and although I feel confident I look good for my age, I dunno if I could post a pic on my blog or elsewhere…unless I cropped out my head! LOL!
Here I am just for you…

You're adorable! You look like a teenager xx


Karen October 30, 2011 at 4:57 am

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Romina Garcia October 29, 2011 at 6:36 pm

I love it!! I think you are beautiful. I mean I always have regardless of what you looked like in a matching set of undies ;-)


Carly Findlay October 29, 2011 at 3:27 pm

What a figure, pocket rocket! You have a great body, and thanks for thinking mine is too :)


Kate October 29, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Gorgeous <3

Love your confidence, love your attitude beautiful woman.


Mrs BC October 29, 2011 at 12:40 pm

You are gorgeous. I post about this, but chickened out of the body shot..


River October 28, 2011 at 9:44 pm

Uh Oh, butt crack. Hitch them up a half inch would you?

There's no way, ever, that I'm putting this body of mine on display. I don't like scaring people.


mishaps and mayhem of a gluten free life October 28, 2011 at 9:40 pm

Very brave! I don't know I have the courage to that and I'm childless at the moment! Very pleased to see your looking healthy when I delivered the care package to you! Go fellow Scorpio, I will aim to do it next yr once I've had surgery for endo sorted, might get rid of pudgy tummy!


Amy xxoo October 28, 2011 at 8:36 pm

You constantly amaze me – you so willingly expose the innermost you almost everyday, and now your sharing how beautiful you are on the outside too?


Miss Pink October 28, 2011 at 6:38 pm

Well if i wasn't having naughty dreams about you last night I will be tonight!
;) xx


Kel October 28, 2011 at 5:23 pm

You are awesome. There's really not much else to say x


Kimmie October 28, 2011 at 3:52 pm

Hi Lori

Heartpoet and I will be joining you this year (for the first time) and have been VERY brave with our post! (tasteful but still activated the adult content button as did not wish to have my blog removed lol). Showing so much of ourselves publicly is a first and will only be a once a year thing as my blog is largely G rated hahaha!

We just wanted you to know that we think you look amazing!!


Kimmie and Heartpoet


Kimmie October 28, 2011 at 2:46 pm

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permanently amanda October 28, 2011 at 2:07 pm

I think you have managed to say a lot of what I have come to feel about my own body over the last year :)


paul in tropical melbourne October 28, 2011 at 2:00 pm

Indeed an admirably brave post. Good for you girl. You're a braver man than I!

Lots of folk send you kudos here, which it does deserve, but as a fellow Scorp ( and I have more scorp in my chart than I'd wish on anyone I tell you – all that intensity and sensitivity ), I feel I must give it to you fairly straight and at full scorp 'vision' ( scorps are supposed to be 'far seeing' as you would have read I'm sure – Humour me if you must ).

So at risk of also sounding like your 'mother' here….

I'm not so sure about all the 'my body can handle anything' philosophy. Things you do now, can make a difference to how your body lasts, or handles the wear and tear of a long life, later on.

The metabolism you have later will most likely be a lot slower and less efficient at body system management. Most likely anyway. Recovery rates from binges, and even lesser indulgences, are slower, and are more damaging, usually.

Everyone's different of course. I respect that. And I would never say never about anything.

And this is a hard thing to relate to when all seems relatively ok at 29 or so. Even if you are a scorp !

Plus, you can't literally see what is going on or developing, or not, inside you. So awareness is low, generally.

And, not judging ( and I'm a non smoker, ex athlete, who use to love smokey live music venues mind you, and still does, if I could find one now it's illegal ), but are you not concerned the heavy smoking will have a big bad effect at all one day ?

YOU have talents and good things to offer to the world, and your kids, and your grandkids. How much of a gamble are you willing to make on that ?

Makes me look like a killjoy here – and I think you're someone who doesn't like 'being told', even when it's an invited comment like you offer here – but I mean it – you ARE a talent and a gift to the world, and your kids – and I, personally, would rather see you go the distance. Or give yourself the best chance at at least. Not get in your own way.

So, in the words of Dirty Harry " do you feel lucky, punk ? ".

( I guess it also depends a little on what you mean by overindulgence versus what I may think is overindulgence too, I guess. Could be 2 very different things and levels. Or not )

I'm interested to see how you'd write this post ( the bits about how good your body is to you, not the 'being proud of who you are' bits ) in 15 years.


totsymae October 28, 2011 at 1:28 pm

Nah…I'll let you stick to the nakedness thing. I gotta job and all. Can't be caught in me undies at the click of a button. But you go, girl. Do your thang.


pinktutu72 October 28, 2011 at 12:59 pm

Beautifully spoken. Love the lacy unmentionables :)


Glowless @ Where’s My Glow October 28, 2011 at 12:53 pm

I was just thinking yesterday how far I'd go this year… you look beautiful, Lori :) x


MummyK October 28, 2011 at 12:44 pm

I'm not brave, but good on you, you look fantastic!!


nicky October 28, 2011 at 11:42 am

You know – the first thing that stood out for me is you look more confident in the latest pics! Just the way you are holding yourself. Well done!
Like some of the others not sure I'd be confident enough to do this… way too many stretch marks after two kidlets, kind of like the tokyo subway map!


Veggie Mama October 28, 2011 at 11:20 am

You are so gorgeous, girl! Love the matching set <3


Sarah Mac October 28, 2011 at 10:57 am

You look great Lori and your post has inspired me to give this a go. Thank you :)


alliecat October 28, 2011 at 10:03 am

You are brave, and you look amazing. I just don't think I heart my body enough to do this right now, despite the fabulous reason it's done. But good on you.


Alison Kathleen October 28, 2011 at 9:42 am

You look amazing! I know I needed this encouragement!


Me October 28, 2011 at 9:27 am

Love this post – would give anything (well maybe not my first born) for a body like that – but I am working on it.

Such self confidence – good for you!

Take care and have a great weekend.


Vicky October 28, 2011 at 9:15 am

Wow! Your are amazing Lori.

Like you I feel more comfortable in my own skin now then I did at 20. I've grown three children and fed them with this body. It carries me through each day, its recovered from three c-sections, knee reconstruction, and still keeps going.

Looking mighty fine Miss Lori.


Carly ~ We Heart Life October 28, 2011 at 8:53 am

Thanks for joining in again Lori!

As women we really do have amazing bodies! Thank you for explaining it so eloquently!

Love your bra and undies by the way!



K October 28, 2011 at 8:50 am

Love this post – beautiful.


Emily October 28, 2011 at 10:32 am

Gorgeous x


Madmother October 28, 2011 at 9:17 am

Gorgeous girl!

You are going to DPCON12, aren't you?


The Hand of a Jeanie October 28, 2011 at 8:37 am

Lori, you are beautiful. But we all knew that already.
You're also brave. I love my body but I'm not sure I'm as brave as you to put it out there.


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