by Lori Dwyer on July 9, 2013 · 32 comments

Blending a family is difficult. It requires all kinds of compromise. It requires all kinds of trust.

I’m holding my breath and jumping again.

The kidlets and I are moving to Melbourne and, due to financial constraints, straight into a new life with the Most Amazing Man In The Universe.

It’s an entirely terrifying, confronting-ly overwhelming, highly ambitious plan of action. And, me being the way I am, I’m hoping to swing it into action at some point during the next month or so.

The thought of packing up my house is… difficult. The thought of moving so far away from my mum, even with her blessing, is heartbreaking.

I’m trying not to think so much about how hard this will be for my kids. About how potentially selfish I’m being. About how I’m ripping them away again, from the life they know and love. Sacrificing their comfort for my own.

I tell myself that, should I hate it, it’s only really a matter of moving back. Nothing will be the same as what it is now, and what we’ve got now is good.

I’m hoping for better.

Melbourne’s always felt like home to me. I’m hoping, with time and intense patience, it will feel like home for my kids, too.

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Alicia August 8, 2013 at 2:59 pm

I haven’t had a moment to read your posts but congratulations on relocating. I also live in the same town as you and we are moving Oct to a small town near the melb border for my husband’s work.

Just like you many blessings from family but wow we have courage doing it and good on us xxx


Kim Bayne July 23, 2013 at 5:00 pm

WooHoo!!!! Lori’s coming to Melbourne!!!


Sapphyre (@sapphyre_au) July 21, 2013 at 5:54 pm

Yay! Melbourne rocks. Try to wait until late August so the weather improves, bloody cold at the moment, even those of us who live here are hanging out for better weather :)


Lori Dwyer July 22, 2013 at 6:27 pm

It’s looking like it will be late August, at the earliest- maybe that’s a good thing? :p :) xx
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Rose July 14, 2013 at 4:59 pm

Oh My Goodness Me!! You are NOT being selfish in the slightest and what you are doing for your kids is taking them to where YOU feel at home. Children need security and love- this is what you are doing. If the core of the family is stable, safe and grounded then they will be too. Embrace it. Be proud that you can, you are and you will. It’s that simple.
The reason you are sad is because your Mum stays here. You will miss her because you love her. You lucky, lucky woman. Safe travels X


Jan Dwyer July 11, 2013 at 1:30 pm

Be happy and if your happy the kids will be, we are not that far away, and you need to do this for yourself.


Emma July 11, 2013 at 12:54 am

Ahhhh, I had a feeling this was what you were talking about the other day! Wonderful! I’m a Melbournian (transplanted a decade or do so from Ballarat) and there really is no other place like it. :-) Best of luck with everything – I’d love to meet you one day, because I think you’re tops!


Emma July 11, 2013 at 12:55 am

Do so = so. :-)


Carli July 10, 2013 at 7:01 pm

Melbourne will be glad to have you Lori :)


Lori Dwyer July 10, 2013 at 12:03 pm

Wow- thanks so much for your comments everyone. You guys are tops :) xx
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Megsy July 10, 2013 at 8:28 am

Melbourne will be lucky to have you! Your kidlets are super resilient. They will be happy if you are!


carin July 9, 2013 at 9:49 pm

This. This is fucking awesome this is.


Steph July 9, 2013 at 8:59 pm

I’ve been reading here for a few years now and this post made me smile for you. You deserve all the happiness in the world and your kids will thrive with this new adventure. Good luck and all the best for the next month while you guys transition :)


Brenda July 9, 2013 at 8:33 pm

Good luck hun. xxx


Salz July 9, 2013 at 7:10 pm

Dont think like that. Think of it as an adventure. You’re not sacrificing anything if anything you will miss out on a chance to show your children that there is a whole other world (or state) out their. Kids make friends easily I think the move will be good for them and you. A change. Some fresh air. New town.

Enjoy Melbourne and I’m glad we got to meet before you went for good. :D

Lots of love
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Donna July 9, 2013 at 6:44 pm

Lori you truly deserve this happiness & for your kids, having a happy mummy will mean more than any attachment to the place they live. So thrilled for you, may you keep being showered with love x
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Dorothy @ Singular Insanity July 9, 2013 at 6:32 pm

That’s great news, Lori. For so many reasons, but mostly, because you’ll be closer to me!

Hope the family blending goes well, as does the move. Big hugs!
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Cait Nicholas July 9, 2013 at 6:09 pm

Good luck amazing lovely Lori :) So looking forward to hearing about the trials and tribulations of your fresh start.

Big hugs


Manda July 9, 2013 at 6:00 pm

Gosh I’m excited for you =) Hope the move goes well. If you need some insta-friends we’d love to take you to a park (my four year old is park obsessed at the moment. We do lots of picnics).


Lisa@Circle of Toast July 9, 2013 at 5:49 pm

If you’re happy, then your children will be too. All the best to you with your move :)
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Whoa, Molly July 9, 2013 at 5:48 pm

You never know how good things could be if you never try. I think Melbourne sounds amazing, and don’t worry about the kids – moving is an adventure when you are that little.

So glad to know you are embarking on a new adventure.

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Twitchy July 9, 2013 at 5:44 pm

This calls for some unbridled excitement! Tempered with a little calm faith and gently gently. As you were then. Good luck!


Kelley July 9, 2013 at 5:22 pm

Yay, exciting times. This is not selfish. Their comfort comes from you. All the best, I’m sure it will be great


Charmaine July 9, 2013 at 5:19 pm

Melbourne is awesome! Although I must admit I’ve never lived anywhere else. Welcome!


Steve H July 9, 2013 at 5:16 pm

I have followed your journey for about 3 years or so now and shared your joy and despair.
I’m not a regular reader but every couple of months jump on and devour a couple of dozen of your posts.
I just have to say “Well done” for finding YOU again. For finding the bits of yourself that you hid in the closet when your world caved in. That’s gutsy and commendable.
Go girl. Good luck.


Glow July 9, 2013 at 5:12 pm

Kids are resilient little buggers, they’ll be fine. Best of luck, you’ve always seemed like a Melbourne chick to me x
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Spagsy July 9, 2013 at 4:16 pm

Melbourne welcomes you and yours with open arms.


Miss Pink July 9, 2013 at 2:46 pm

It might be tough but it is what is right for you guys. I just know this is going to be the start of something wonderful. The next chapter.
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Toni July 9, 2013 at 2:38 pm

Im glad you have found happiness again Lori. I hope everything works out and it is a smooth transition for you and the kids :)
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Sue July 9, 2013 at 11:38 am

Good luck, I hope you find the happiness and contentment that you deserve :)
There will definitely be a time of adjustment and the kids will take their lead from you, if you are happy they will be too.
Enjoy your new life :)


Jo July 9, 2013 at 11:13 am

This will be hard, but ultimately amazing. I’m so excited for you!


Mrs Woog July 9, 2013 at 8:37 am

Good for you! The kids will be fine and you will be happy and this is all a good thing. xxx


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