One Post at a Time.

by Lori Dwyer on August 6, 2014 · 17 comments

Well… hi. It’s been a while.

I’ve been afraid to write on my own blog, and I’m still not sure why. It’s bizarre how something that was my salvation now causes me a strange kind of anxiety.

I’ve been afraid of a lot of things over the last year or so. I kind of lost the ability to function in any meaningful way for a while there. Blogging is just part of it.

It felt like six months of falling deeper and deeper into a hole I didn’t even know was ahead of me. And it’s been six months of rebuilding myself. Step by step. Bit by tiny bit. You know how it can be- one step forward, two steps back.

I’ve been afraid of myself, and everything that resides within me. It’s taking a while, to get to know myself again.

I am angry at myself for thinking I knew everything. For not realising what an effect such a huge geographical move would have on me. I try not to think about it too much.

I have missed writing, and I feel the hole that it’s left. But I think about blogging. And that leads to thinking about the avalanche of unanswered emails in my inbox; the Facebook messages I haven’t responded to. Which ties in to the phone calls I haven’t made, the to–do list of things I haven’t done….

And it’s all downhill from there.

So I’m not going to worry about that, right now. I’m just going to write. It’s just fingers tapping on my iPad screen. It’s just writing. A few hundred words and nothing more.



Life is good. Life is laughter and school lunches and Sunday trips into the city, and late nights curled up watching TV in bed.

Life is normal. I feel normal. We- the Most Amazing Man, the Chop, the Bump and I- are a happy, relatively well–functioning little family of four.

Some days I’m still… not great. Some days I jump at little things. Sometimes the sound of sirens make my heart beat fast and a lump of dread sits like sour dough in my stomach. Some days I spiral into things I shouldn’t think about.

But that’s just life, and everything has something that haunts them. Everyone has bad days. These things just manifest themselves in different ways.



The Most Amazing Man is still pretty damn amazing. My children are gorgeous, beautiful, magnificent little creatures. It continually amazes me, how much I can love two people who drive me so absolutely fucking insane with their cheeky naughtiness.

There’s so much i want to tell you about them. About me. And I will, I’m sure I will…

Baby steps. This is one post. One post at a time.



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Martha August 12, 2014 at 2:19 pm

Welcome back :)


Lori August 11, 2014 at 5:47 am

Normal is good and happy is even better. So you just write when you feel like it and don’t worry about anything else. :-)


Toushka August 9, 2014 at 6:22 pm

Welcome back lovely. I agree with Danielle. Clean slate the shit out of your inbox and rebirth yourself fresh and clean.


Jennifer August 8, 2014 at 11:28 pm

Wow this is the first time I have found this hang in there girl, we are aligned it is spooky love to you and yours thankyou for your blog We have gone through the some shit at the same time. Through our husbands and we have SURVIVED what they did to our family we will never recover from but we are now so strong and they do don’t have anything except there past….not ours or theirs…..


Kel August 8, 2014 at 9:22 pm

Great to see you back :)


Kate August 7, 2014 at 8:03 pm

Welcome back. We are here with open arms to listen and support.


Anonymous August 7, 2014 at 7:37 pm

Welcome back you beautiful soul. So lovely to read your words again. Glad to hear you are well, much love xxxxxx


Emma Joyce August 7, 2014 at 6:36 pm

So nice to see you here again , you write so beautifully Lori x


Marlene August 7, 2014 at 3:38 pm

Well done. One post a time. So nice to see you write again. Miss your smiley face xoxo


Marlee Jane August 7, 2014 at 11:18 am

LORI! So glad to see you making words on my screen.
You do what you need to do, write what you want to write, be awesome and we’ll all still be here, wishing only the best for you.

x x x
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Kate Salinger August 7, 2014 at 11:12 am

Welcome back x


Charmaine Campbell August 7, 2014 at 10:19 am

I often wonder how you are doing, I’ve noticed your absence! I’ll bet your just loving this Melbourne weather…I’ve lived here my whole life and it’s really bugging me this year. Can’t wait for daylight savings and hanging washing on the clothesline again!
Glad to see you back! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX


Danielle August 7, 2014 at 10:10 am

The biggest tip I can give you is to wipe it clean. Your inbox, your Facebook inbox and start a fresh. If it’s important they will reach out again and you will have a fresh start.


Debbie August 7, 2014 at 8:57 am

RRSAHM! exclaimed I, when I saw you in my RSS feed. Missed you! Glad for one post to read or many. Just made a huge geographical move myself (including leaving my husband after discovering his year long affair). Day by day (and post by post), on we go. So glad your little fam is happy!


Marianne August 7, 2014 at 1:06 am

Missed you! Glad to have you back! My kiddo is leaving the nest tomorrow!!!! We move her into her dorm. I am ONE. HOT. MESS. right now.
I’m glad you’re considering blogging more often! I love your writing! Remember that people all over the world have come to care about you and yours through your blog. Also? You have helped A LOT of people by describing your progress through your own struggles. I know. I’m one of them.
Big hug and a big ole smooch from all the way over here in Alabama!
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Mel G August 6, 2014 at 11:02 pm

Welcome back, I’m glad you’re still putting one foot in front of the other! Here’s a tip for your (overwhelming?) inbox – delete it and start fresh. Chances are you’ve already dealt with what needs dealing with anyway, and the sheer numbers of unread mail gets to be paralysing. I’ve been there. Trust me, trash it and it’ll be a huge weight off you.

Take care of you xx


Anonymous August 7, 2014 at 4:22 pm

I like the delete and start again approach


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