Just some stuff that I’ve learnt lately.
Time Passes. And sometimes that’s a bitch, and sometimes it’s a blessing. Either way, it’s truth- times passes, and it takes many things with it.
You Can Do What You Have To. When there is no other choice but to put one foot in front of the other, you just do it. You have to.
Opinion Are Like Noses. Everyone’s got one. A lot of them are ugly. And many of them are full of nothing useful.
Some People Are Just Fuckwits. And something like this- something terrible, something heartbreaking… it changes nothing. The fuckwits, they’re still fuckwits.
But Some People Are Just Awesome. Serious. For every fuckwit out there, there is at least two people who have huge hearts, open minds, and are willing to put themselves out to help others.
There Is No Timeline. There are no rules. Grief… it’s a bitch of a thing. And it takes as long as it’s likes.
Chocolate is good. Always.
Mental illness bites so hard. And so does the stigma, shame and silence that surrounds it.
“Make friends with your shadow- you can’t run from it.” Sage advice from my mate Eden.
Control is an illusion. And sometimes it’s best to let it go.
And Fate is bullshit. Whether all this actually happened for a reason or not, I don’t know… but it’s still fucked.
Don’t be too busy, all the time. You’ll regret it if you miss stuff.
Rule Number One- Move On. Tony used to say this all the time- I’d stress about things, want to dissect them and discuss them; and he’d say… “You just gotta keep moving forward, darl.”
And that’s so true. No matter what happens, no matter how far back you fall… the only direction to move in, eventually, is forward.
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You wanted me to remind you when you wrote this blog about the "shopping, no matter what, a girl's gotta shop"… L, you will know what I mean. xoxo
oh my god, this changed my life.
so, ok. maybe not my hole life, but my life right now.
thank you!
Lori I needed your reality check list tonight. Especially the fuckwit part. Although I know and study behaviour I still forget how 1 random fuckwit can make you doubt yourself and make you feel crappy. So to the fuckwit who emailed me a nasty comment you are just an ignorant fuckwit . For 1 of you there are atleast 2 big hearts out there- that's what Lori says and all the lovelies that left comments, reminded me to ignore you so I am. Phew that feels much better. Thanks
I am just joining in the comments. Someone in Canada who is not a mom sent me your blog a month or so ago and I put it on FB. I'm passing it along. All I can say is you are awesome! People say you cannot love someone you have never met. Well that's just not true. You are loved by me and people you have touched deeply. I could go on about that but I think you know what I mean. I just wanted to finally comment here.
Maaan, how am I meant to write a cool comment after Eden? Not gonna happen is it?
xxx
P.S. Codeword x
So true…
Yes, fuckwits are always fuckwits, and nothing will change that. I only hope that the people in Paradise are continuing to be kind to you.
Hope you and the kiddies are well and continuing to heal.
XXXXX
Yep. Totally agree.
Lori I think about you every single day … true.
Your instagram pic, of the cloth nappies? Made me cry like a bitch. A teeny step, in coming back Home inside yourself. Doing things the way you want them done … gaining some control over your life again.
I motherfucking love you, hon. XOXOXO
Here's to moving forward Lori, you are an amazing woman with so much insight. Sending you love and good wishes everyday.
I agree. xo
I prefer the saying " Opinions are like arseholes – everybodys got one ". But then our next bit was " and some of them are ugly "…and they just made me cack! Good work Lori!
I live my life by the chocolate rule (and Rule No 6 : don't take yourself too seriously), Sage advice Lori..thank you x
Great list. I needed that. You are a strong, brave, inspirational woman. You are the hero in your story. You inspire me to kick my grief to the curb and just get on with life. Thank you. A-M xx
Tears again here, but there's a smile too… and I think I would like Lou Gorman
xxx
Absolutely true.
As the late Lou Gorman (a former professional baseball executive) once said, "The sun will rise, the sun will set, and I'll have lunch."
Chocolate can never be bad
Ah, love it. So true… xo
Hey Lori. I haven't been by in awhile (sorry) so just caught up on your posts.
Glad things are working out for you down South. It is a beautiful part of the world. SLow and simple. Lots of time to think and grow and raise your gorgeous kids and mourn.
You are doing amazing things with that special brain of yours – finding connections, asking questions, trying to make sense of it. For you. For your kids. For us. You are making a difference. Keep moving on. Drag yourself on the shite days because each day you get through makes you stronger and wiser.
Still here. Still thinking of you. Lots of hugs xx
This is all so true, and so inspiring.
So absolutely true! *HUGS*
They are some of the same things I know – especially the fuckwits – I know of too many. lol
I've read about people who go through the most horrific personal tragedies and come out the other side with inner peace, grace and wisdom. I'm hoping the inner peace comes for you in good time but the wisdom, and the generosity to share it with people is there already. You're amazing, Lori. Thanks for that xxx
So True!! Chocolate is always good!
There are certainly a lot of fuckwits out there but more beautiful souls to drown them out!
Wow – this is some of the wisest, true-est (sorry had to make up a word there) writing I've ever read. You are amazing, and so crazily smart and talented. This blog will help so many people.
xo
Fantastic truths.
Thank you.
Awesome advice.
in Afrikaans we say Fok Voort. Direct translation Fuck forward in other words keep moving forward.
I love you, Lori.xxxx
Oh Lori, so much truth there! grief is something that we all cope with in our own way & own time… & it sucks!
I agree xox
you are one of the most strongest, lovliest, most awesomest people i have had the pleasure of meeting. Lots of love to you and the kidlets. xoxoxoxo
Chocolate is good, and some people are just fuckwits.
My lifes mantra.
x
Beautifully put yet again.
xx
thank u