Who Is Bunny?

by Lori Dwyer on November 24, 2011 · 23 comments

I know some of you must be curious, because he appeared here so abruptly, with little introduction, around the same time I went to Melbourne… a friend of mine who I just call Bunny. And yes, he’s a bloke.

I’ve been meaning to explain him, it’s just never come up… but now might be the time. Because, quite frankly, he’s mad at me, and thinks he’s not my bestie anymore. And I hate that.

So… my Bunny. For those of you who have been playing along at home, Bunny’s been a constant in this strange, new, un-Purple Life the last few months. He came to Melbourne with me, narrowly avoided hitting a cow. In fact, he’s my Melbourne mate, the person who understands why I love it the way I do.

He buried Scarlette for me, crying tears for her and I, doing the difficult job of plowing earth over her face.

He killed a massive, scary eyed spider for me, and climbed through my bathroom window when I lost my keys.

You know all of that. I guess I should fill you in on the bits you don’t know.

Like the way he took the day off work to help me move house. Like the way he put up with my cat crying at him the whole way from Paradise to TinyTrainTown, stuffed in a small plastic cage.

The way he has held me while I cried, while I sobbed. The way he has told me, repeatably, that I’m still lovable, that I’m still real, that I’m still a good mum and a top chick. That this wasn’t, isn’t my fault, and I’m doing the best I can.

I’ve never told you all that, in the first few weeks after Tony died, Bunny was my only salvation.

I barely remember it now, but I know how it felt. I remember nights on Bunny’s lounge, him trying desperately to distract me with funny movies and YouTube clips. Eating pizza and smoking ciggerettes, staying up late in the humid heat of summer. Crying myself to sleep, Bunny rubbing my back and telling me it was going to be OK.

Bunny takes phone calls in the middle of the night, when my breath catches with anxiety. He stays with me, when I am far too terrifying for everyone else, when the heat of my pain burns peoples skin.

Having been through this, lived through it… I count my true friends now, on my fingers. The people who have never let me down, have always been there for me. The people I can trust with my life, with my soul…

My Bunny, he’s at the top of that list.

In a world with so few people who are good and loving, right down to their very bones… Bunny is the most wonderful person I know.

My best mate. My soft place to fall.

Bunny… the best thing that I’ve gotten, new and fresh, that didn’t already exist in the Before… the best thing to come from this awful thing that happened to me… it’s you.


OK…. I’m totally going to blame this massive f**k up on the fact that I’ve been sick for the last few days.

Thanks to the one person who pointed this out, and the thousands of others who ignored my blatant stupidity.

Why, yes, I did publish a whole post about the awesome new newsletter I have starting this week… and I did forget to include the link to where you can actually sign up to receive it.

Altogether now….. duh.

So…. please, work with me here. Give me another chance. Sign up to the RRSAHM newsletter, titled What Lori Did and What Lori Did Next.

I promise, this time, that link, it works.


And it seems we have another anonymous admirer to add to my ever growing cache of nameless Net admirers… Mr (or Mrs) Cheers, more clues are much appreciated.

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Anonymous April 10, 2012 at 10:15 pm

You silly willy :) Let's be frank – it's a euphemism for anal sex. I think my pic should be there though as I was the first.


marketingtomilk March 14, 2012 at 7:00 pm

"Bunny… the best thing that I've gotten, new and fresh, that didn't already exist in the Before… the best thing to come from this awful thing that happened to me… it's you."

Even in darkness there always comes light.
I believe that



Livi December 13, 2011 at 6:11 am

Wahey for Bunny! It's so important to have someone like that in your life


Shellye December 5, 2011 at 8:13 pm

Friends like Bunny are a true gift from God. He sounds amazing…


Lindseywishinguponstars November 26, 2011 at 5:24 am

Perhaps Bunny is not interested in women at all? Is that why you haven't scooped him up as your own??


Bambi Kay November 25, 2011 at 1:04 am

Bunny and Lori…sounds good to my ears.


Aunty Penny November 25, 2011 at 12:26 am

In nearly every one of your posts there is a line that makes me think "…wow".

This time it was "…when the heat of my pain burns peoples skin".

You convey such emotion in only a small number of words.


Melissa November 25, 2011 at 12:13 am

To Bunny – for all of us who can do nothing for our beloved Lori except pray, send good thoughts, and comment on the blog – we thank you.
Please don't be mad at Lori anymore. She's top. She loves you, is grateful for you and she NEEDS you.


iampisspot November 24, 2011 at 9:57 pm

Bunny sounds like an incredible guy!


Something Gorgeous November 24, 2011 at 9:55 pm

What a funny bunny! I say keep that one! x


A Daft Scots Lass November 24, 2011 at 9:27 pm

Your Bunny sounds like a furry adorable specimen.


Wanderlust November 24, 2011 at 3:12 pm

We all need a Bunny. So glad you found yours. x


Amy xxoo November 24, 2011 at 2:00 pm

How strange that i just assumed Bunny was a woman…
Anyhoodle, Bunny the Bloke sounds like one awesome dude. Job well done Bunny!


Anonymous November 24, 2011 at 12:59 pm

So what is the possibility of you and Bunny becoming an item, because it sure sounds like he's good for you and you're good for him…. Just sayin'


Annabellz November 24, 2011 at 12:46 pm

God Bless Bunny!


SistaC November 24, 2011 at 12:19 pm

I think you love Bunny, and Bunny loves you. What are you waiting for?


Lady Fabulous November 24, 2011 at 12:11 pm

Mr Bunny sounds like a keeper :)

To Mr Bunny: Thanks for keeping our Lori safe and loved *mwah*


JB November 24, 2011 at 11:40 am

Your Bunny has nice eyes. There's a difference between being mad at you and not being your bestie anymore.

I hope he comes around. Friends like that are hard to find.


Kimmie November 24, 2011 at 10:22 am

Love that blossoms from a beautiful friendship is often the best love of all. Sometimes we don't really see what has been under our noses all along ;]


Kellie November 24, 2011 at 9:34 am

He sounds awesome Lori. You deserve to have someone in your life who is there to catch you.
High five, Bunny x


Steph(anie) November 24, 2011 at 9:12 am

So the answer to this question is implied, but… I take it Bunny isn't an option in the romance category? He seems so very lovely.


Easy Peasy Kids November 24, 2011 at 9:09 am

Bunny sounds gorgeous just like you. We all need a Bunny buddy, mine is back in the UK, miss my Bunny heaps.NX Have signed up for your newsletter


Shelley November 24, 2011 at 10:22 am

What a lovely post :) I think everyone needs a Bunny! Im so glad you have someone there for you like that. True friends are indeed so special :)


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